Declining a Baby Shower Invitation (2024)

You're invited to a surprise baby shower for a long-lost friend. The two of you never fought, you just drifted apart — and though you feel a little guilty admitting it, you're not really interested in reigniting the relationship. How can you gracefully decline?

1) Send a nice card and an inexpensive gift.
2) Contact the host and make up a story about being out of town on the day of the shower.
3) Call the host and simply say you won't be attending.

The correct answer: Walk right up to this one: Call the host, thank her for the invitation, and tell her that you're sorry but you can't make it (3). You don't need to give a reason or make up an excuse. You're also in no way obliged to send a present — this is a shower, not a wedding. If you can't shake your guilt, send a card to the mother-to-be. A personal note that expresses your best wishes and happiness for her will be received as you intend it — as a nice gesture from an old friend.