What is empathy? According to psychologist and author Daniel Goleman, empathy is a necessary component of emotional intelligence.If emotional intelligence is the key attribute that separates excellent leaders from average leaders,it’s important to try and understand what makes a person empathic.Goleman identifies three types of empathy, each of which are important for effective leaders:
- Cognitive Empathy: the ability to understand another's perspective. This requires leaders to think about their feelings rather than feel them directly. Emotionally intelligent and effective leaders are aware of their feelings and can explain them.
- Emotional Empathy: the ability to physically feel what another person feels. This type of empathy helps people feel attuned to another person’s emotions, and provides the ability to feel others’ emotions quickly without thinking deeply.
- Empathic Concern: the ability to sense what another needs from you.Empathic concern is “other-oriented” in the sense that it involves feeling for the other person, such as feeling sorry for, sympathy for, concerned for, and so on. Excellent leaders have a keen sense of being present with others.
When Empathy Needs to be Learned
I often get asked if empathy can be learned.I believe the answer is yes.Helen Riess, Harvard Medical School Professor and Founder ofEmpathetics, set up a program in which people learned to focus using deep breathing and by cultivating a detachment. The task was to watch an interaction from an outsider’s perspective, which allowed the person to fully observe and digest what was happening instead of being immersed in emotions or feeling reactive.
You can see if your own physiology is charged up or balanced.You can notice what is transpiring in a situation.
"Suspending your involvement in an interaction to better understand what’s happening provides a mindful awareness of the interaction, instead of being lost in your own thoughts and feelings."
When Empathy Needs to be Controlled
As Golemanshares what makes a focused leader, he says that having control of our impulse to empathize with other people’s feelings can help us make better decisions when someone’s emotions overwhelm us.
Physicians learn in medical school to block automatic responses, which is what happens in your brain when you distance yourself from others in order to stay calm and help them. This system helps people understand the other’s perspective intellectually by shifting from the heart-to-heart of emotional empathy to the head-to-heart of cognitive empathy.
Which Type Are You?
Consider that there is a head, heart and gut component to empathy, so focusing on cognitive (head), emotional (heart) empathy is only part of the equation and people may gravitate naturally to one of the three types of empathy more consistently.I invite you to notice when you are engaging in one component of empathy or a combination of the three. At Culture Conscious, we look atfull-body problem solvingand analyze creative ways to cultivate emotional intelligence for both professional and personal growth.
Empathy, as defined by psychologist Daniel Goleman, is an integral facet of emotional intelligence (EI) essential for effective leadership. Goleman delineates three pivotal types of empathy:
Cognitive Empathy:
This type requires individuals to comprehend another's viewpoint without directly experiencing their emotions. It demands a deep understanding of emotions by rationalizing them rather than feeling them firsthand. Effective leaders adept in cognitive empathy are not only aware of their emotions but can also articulate and comprehend them.
Emotional Empathy:
This facet allows one to physically experience and quickly connect with another person's emotions. It facilitates an almost instantaneous emotional resonance without the need for profound contemplation. Leaders possessing emotional empathy are attuned to others' feelings, aiding in swift emotional connections.
Empathic Concern:
This is an other-oriented form of empathy, encompassing feelings such as sympathy, concern, or sorrow for another. Exceptional leaders excel in being present with others and possess a keen sense of understanding and addressing others' needs.
Helen Riess, a Harvard Medical School Professor and Founder of Empathetics, introduced a program focusing on mindfulness techniques to enhance empathy. This program emphasized observing interactions from an outsider's perspective, fostering an ability to observe and understand without being engulfed in personal emotions, enabling a more mindful awareness of the interaction.
Goleman also discusses the necessity of controlling empathetic impulses in decision-making when overwhelmed by someone else's emotions. This control, often taught to physicians, involves shifting from emotional empathy to cognitive empathy to make rational decisions in emotionally charged situations.
Goleman further suggests that individuals might naturally lean toward one type of empathy or a combination of the three—head (cognitive), heart (emotional), and gut. Recognizing and engaging with these components is crucial for a more comprehensive understanding and utilization of empathy.
Your Invitation:
Reflect on instances when engaging in one or a blend of these empathetic components. This awareness aids in fostering a more holistic understanding of empathy.
At Culture Conscious, the emphasis is on holistic problem-solving and cultivating emotional intelligence for professional and personal growth, incorporating these insights into fostering a more comprehensive understanding of empathy for effective leadership and personal development.
