How to Deal With a Friend Who Copies You: 8 Tips (2024)

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Ask them about it. Talk about their originality. Point out what you like about them. Let them talk. Help them discover their uniqueness. Force them to do their own thing. Build their confidence. Make sure they do things they like to do. Community Q&A Tips Warnings You Might Also Like References About This Article Reader Success Stories Did this article help you?
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Annoyed by a friend who imitates your every move? Here's what you need to do

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1Ask them about it.

2Talk about their originality.

3Point out what you like about them.

4Let them talk.

5Help them discover their uniqueness.

6Force them to do their own thing.

7Build their confidence.

8Make sure they do things they like to do.

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Co-authored byTracey Rogers, MA

Last Updated: September 17, 2023

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They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but it can still be pretty irritating when your friend is copying you. If it seems like they're always buying the same clothes as you, listening to the same music, and even copying your opinions and habits, it might be time to sit them down and talk about it. Fortunately, it's possible to address the problem head-on without ruining your friendship—and we're here to help. Read on to learn how to address a friend with a copycat problem, so you can both shine in your own ways.

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Ask them about it.

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  1. Discuss it with them. They might not even realize that they’re copying you. Sit down with them and make sure they’re aware of it and divulge into potential reasons for it. Don’t attack them, make it a discussion.

    • "Did you notice that we’ve been matching a lot lately?”
      • If they say no, give them examples.
    • "Do you think it’s funny that we always end up doing the same thing?”
    • "Why do you think these things happen?”

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Talk about their originality.

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  1. Ask them how they describe their style or personality. If they have trouble doing so, it’ll help them see that they’ve been copying you. Remember, it’s likely there will be similarities between you—that’s why you’re friends—but they should also have some original ideas.

    • "The whole point of clothes is to highlight your own unique style, how do you think you’d describe your style.”
    • "How do you see yourself?”

  1. Give them examples of things they’ve thought of on their own that you liked. Show them that they also have good, original ideas. Be vague when you do this, so that you don’t give away all of your preferences.

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Let them talk.

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  1. This is going to be the turning point to make them stop copying you. Once you make them aware of the situation, you need to let them carry the conversation. This will show them that they have the ability to form their own ideas and that will carry over into whatever aspect of life they’ve been copying from you.

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Help them discover their uniqueness.

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  1. If they’ve been copying your outfits, go through their closet with them. Have them create outfits without your help and point out good things about them. If they’ve been copying the way you act, leave it to them to make the first move and agree with whatever they choose. Give them confidence in their decision-making, and they’ll be less likely to copy you.[1]

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Force them to do their own thing.

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  1. If they truly can't understand that they’re copying you, don’t tell them your plans. Secrets are never good for a friendship, but you may have to keep some so that they make choices for themselves. Make them decide on upcoming plans and purchases. Don’t give them an answer about where you want to go or what you want to do. Let them do it.

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Build their confidence.

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  1. Continue to point out what you like about their style or ideas. Keep in mind that people that copy chronically typical suffer from extreme insecurity. They have low self-esteem. Get your mutual friends in on it to help build their confidence. Support them in every choice they make, even if it seems over the top. This will help them become a confident, independent person.

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Make sure they do things they like to do.

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  1. This is an easy way to build self-esteem. When you do something you enjoy doing, it’s something that gives you comfort and confidence. Help your friend do something they like to do every single day.[2]

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    How do I stop someone from copying what I want to be when I'm older?

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    Say that you want to be something else instead, but really pursue your original desire. You are tricking the person copying you to a different job.

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    There is a friend of mine whom I've fought out with, but she keeps coming back and copying my tastes, like my favorite game, my favorite YouTuber, etc. How should I deal with her?

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    Some people say that it is a compliment if people copy you, but I find that irritating. Maybe you should start to change your style and tastes. You could also just tell the friend how you feel. Of course, if you guys are fighting all the time anyway, it might be time to just end the friendship.

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      • Take time to reflect before you take any major action. Sometimes it feels like someone is copying us when they're really not. Other times, they really might be copying us, but it turns out to not be a big deal.

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      • They might get defensive when you approach them about it. Be prepared for it to put a rift in your friendship. If it becomes a serious issue, talk to an adult about it.

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      This article was co-authored by Tracey Rogers, MA. Tracey L. Rogers is a Certified Life Coach and Professional Astrologer based in Philadelphia. Tracey has over 10 years of life coaching and astrology experience. Her work has been featured on nationally syndicated radio, as well as online platforms such as Oprah.com. She is certified as a Coach by the Life Purpose Institute, and she has an MA in International Education from George Washington University. This article has been viewed 139,795 times.

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