The Dark Side of Stoicism (2024)

Philosophy

As a philosophy under-grad in my 20s, I was instantly drawn to existentialism. I loved eccentric French guys saying crazy but profound things about the nature of existence and morality. There was something cataclysmic and ruggedly individualistic about existentialism that validated the frenetic nature of my young adulthood.

Then my 30s happened. Things slowed down but got more serious. I had bills to pay and wanted to get ahead in life. Suddenly, existentialism didn’t hold the same allure. I discovered stoicism and instantly found value in reading as much Marcus Aurelius and Seneca as I could. I loved the philosophy in that it stressed staying calm and rational despite what adversities come about, which suited a more mature lifestyle. Quotes from almost 2,000 years ago were ringing even more true now, and it seemed to be a guiding solution for handling the life I was leading.

But at some point, I believe stoicism can backfire and become toxic to your life. Not completely toxic, but there are certain outcomes of using this philosophy that may lead you astray if followed full-heartedly. Let’s discuss.

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