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Is It Proper For The Mother Of The Mother-To-Be To Host The Baby Shower?
Here are a few questions we have received on the subject...


~ Question sent in by Mary from Greensboro, NC ~

Q. Is it proper for me to host my daughter's baby shower? If not held in the home, I may have a luncheon in a hotel or restaurant.

Our Answer:

Hi Mary,

Thank you for your etiquette question. It is perfectly fine for you to host a baby shower in honor of your daughter. The only person who is not allowed to host the baby shower is the mom-to-be.

As far as etiquette goes, any other family member or close friend can host the baby shower.

I hope that helps. Good Luck planning the baby shower!

Q. Is it ok for the mother of the mother to be, to host her daughter's baby shower?

Our Answer:

Hi,

Thank you for your etiquette question. It is totally fine for the mother of an expecting mother to host a baby shower. In fact, it happens quite often at baby showers. Years past, it was considered a money grab for anyone related to the expecting mom to throw the baby shower. Currently, the etiquette rules state that anyone except the expecting mother can throw the baby shower.

I hope that helps. Good Luck!

Q. Does a mother give her pregnant daughter a baby shower?

Our Answer:

Absolutely! Etiquette rules used to be against any family member hosting the baby shower. But, those rules have changed and it is now totally acceptable for a mother to host a baby shower for a pregnant daughter. It is actually very commonplace these days to see a grandmother-to-be host the baby shower for her pregnant daughter.

I hope that helps. Good Luck with the shower!


~ Question sent in by Sheila~

Q.Is is proper for a parent to host a shower for their child who is expecting?

Our Answer:

Hi there,

Thank you for your etiquette question. Yes, it is totally within etiquette rules for a mom to host a baby shower for her pregnant daughter to be.

Etiquette rules have changed quite a bit and as far as etiquette rules go, the only person who is not allowed to host a baby shower is the mom to be.

I hope that helps!

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by: Nisha-Editor

Hi,

I wouldn't ask one of her friends to host the baby shower. If one of them volunteers to host one, it would be fine. If not, as her mom, it would be fine for you to volunteer to host a baby shower for her. If you host a party, you can do a long distance baby shower for all of the friends and family that are spread out around the country. No matter which one you choose, the baby gets celebrated and she gets a party. ;)

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Mother of mother to be hosting
by: Anonymous

My daughter is pregnant with the first grandchild. She has gone to college in the northeast, lived in the south, and is now just recently in the far southeast, with in-laws in the west. We recently relocated as well, therefor there is not really a home base. Everyone she is close to is far away. Because the friends she has made in her new town are recent, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking one of them to host what will be her only shower, therefore having to invite people from all over the country. Is it ok for me as her mother to host something in her new town and then be able to invite all the friends and family she would want? Or should I step out and let a new friend host something small which won't include having all the people she would want from around the country. I don't want to be rude but I don't want her to miss having the ones she loves at her special time.

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The best way to handle it...
by: Nisha- Editor

is to allow your ex husband's wife to sit with the rest of the family at the table with you. I know you won't like this answer, but I cannot see it turning out well if she is excluded from sitting with you. The fact that you are already hearing her talk about wanting to sit at the table tells me that she will be upset at the party if she is not sitting with you. If you want a party that has little drama, put on a smile and let her feel involved and like she is part of the family. The last thing you want at a beautiful celebration that you spend time and effort to put together is to have hurt feelings and possibly a situation that your daughter will feel torn between people she loves. In the future, if you don't want to run into this situation and still are having problems getting along with your ex's wife, make the celebration focused on a circle of friends that would not normally include her...like a party for your daughter and her girlfriends or a party with your side of the family only (no one on your ex husband's side is invited). Hope that helps! Best of luck with the baby shower. :)

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HELP! step mother is overstepping her bounderies
by: Anonymous

I'm in a dilemma. I am hosting a huge baby shower for my only daughter. I am so excited for my first grandchild. My ex-husbands wife whom I've been extremely cordial to is stealing the joy. I am hearing comments from others that she wants to sit at the table with my daughter and I. I want to do right, but after going out of my way to be kind during my daughters wedding and getting hurt, i feel I have to protect myself. What is proper here? Any suggestions?

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Is it ok to invite other ....
by: Anonymous

my daughter-in-law's mother is hosting her baby shower and left out several people that are hurt that they were not invited. Should I ask my daughter-in-law's mother if they can be invited even though they were not on the invitation list?

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It is understandable
by: Nisha- Editor

Hi there,

I can definitely understand. There is so much excitement with a new baby coming and both of you want the party to be perfect. You want it exactly how you've envisioned. The best thing to do is sit down with your daughter to figure out some compromises. Her pregnancy hormones might make it a little difficult, but I am sure you can both figure out something that makes you both happy. I think some consideration needs to be made on her wants and wishes. It is her new baby coming. But you are funding the party, so I am sure you can find ways to put your own design and flair to it. Will it be "exactly" as you envisioned? Probably not, but I am sure it will be beautiful at the end. It just might take a little creativity and give and take to get something you are both happy with. Hope that helps! Best of luck with the baby shower and new baby coming to your family! :)

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Am I in the wrong?
by: Anonymous

I am wondering if I am in the wrong about something.I am giving a shower for my daughter but she has ideas of how she wants things to look I already have things in my mind that I want to do for it .Can you please tell me am I wrong to feel hurt about this?

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I threw all of my daughters' baby showers
by: Maggie

I have thrown all 3 of my daughters a baby shower for each of their pregnancies. It is totally fine to do so. They had so much fun and got such cute things from the showers. It really helps them out with the new baby. So why not?!

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As a seasoned event planner and etiquette enthusiast with a wealth of experience in hosting various celebrations, including baby showers, I can confidently address the questions raised in the provided article. My expertise is grounded in a deep understanding of social norms, evolving etiquette standards, and the dynamics involved in organizing memorable events.

The central theme of the article revolves around the appropriateness of the mother of the mother-to-be hosting a baby shower. Let's break down the information provided:

  1. Can the Mother of the Mother-To-Be Host the Baby Shower?

    • The answer is a resounding yes. According to current etiquette rules, it is entirely acceptable for the mother of the expecting mother to host a baby shower. This has become a common practice, and there is no longer a stigma associated with family members hosting the event.
  2. Historical Perspective on Family Members Hosting:

    • The article mentions that in the past, there may have been a perception that it was a "money grab" for family members to throw the baby shower. However, contemporary etiquette rules have shifted, and anyone, except the expecting mother, is considered an appropriate host.
  3. Grandmothers Hosting the Baby Shower:

    • The article emphasizes that it is not only acceptable for the mother of the mother-to-be but also for grandmothers-to-be to host baby showers for their pregnant daughters. This change in etiquette reflects the evolving dynamics of family relationships and celebrations.
  4. Parents Hosting a Shower for Their Expecting Child:

    • The information confirms that it is entirely within etiquette rules for a mother to host a baby shower for her pregnant daughter. The only exception is that the mom-to-be herself should not host the event.

In addition to addressing the specific questions posed in the article, the comments section delves into related concerns and scenarios, such as a stepmother's involvement in the baby shower and potential conflicts regarding the event's planning. The responses provide practical advice on navigating these situations with consideration and diplomacy.

In conclusion, the information presented in the article aligns with contemporary etiquette guidelines, emphasizing inclusivity and the freedom for family members, including grandmothers, to play an active role in hosting baby showers.

Mother Of The Expecting Mother Hosting Shower (2024)

FAQs

What if no one offers to throw you a baby shower? ›

This can be tricky. If you have announced that you are having a baby and no one has offered to throw you a shower by 15-20 weeks, here are some things you can do: Subtly mention to your mom, sister, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and best friends that no one has offered to throw you a shower.

What do you say when hosting a baby shower? ›

As the hostess, there are a few things you may want to include in your shower speech:
  1. Mention the mother-to-be by name.
  2. Briefly discuss how you know the guest of honor.
  3. Offer thanks to any other hostesses of the shower.
  4. Take a moment to welcome everyone to the event.

Whose responsibility is it to host a baby shower? ›

Most baby showers should be hosted by a sister, mother, mother-in-law, or close friend. Baby showers were traditionally thrown by family members who weren't close with the parents-to-be, to avoid the assumption that close family members wanted to collect gifts for themselves.

Who typically hosts baby showers? ›

Traditionally, close friends, cousins, aunts, sisters-in-law, or co-workers of the mother-to-be hosted baby showers. Because gifts are central to showers, having a member of the honoree's (or husband's) immediate family host appeared self-serving.

Do you have to give party favors at a baby shower? ›

If you're wondering whether or not you should provide party favors to your guests, honestly, it's really up to you. Party favors are a nice gesture to thank guests for coming, but they can quickly get expensive. If you do choose to give party favors, feel free to cap your spending at just a few dollars per guest.

Do people still do favors at baby showers? ›

Nowadays, baby shower favors range from self-care items like handmade soaps and bespoke candles to practical items like mixing spoons and drink koozies—you can really turn almost anything you want into a party favor. A couple things to keep in mind: Party favors are by no means a requirement for throwing a baby shower.

Do you have speeches at a baby shower? ›

Giving a baby shower speech is an excellent way to express your love and support for the parents-to-be. It's a chance to convey heartfelt sentiments and show that you're there for them during this significant life event.

How many guests should you have at a baby shower? ›

Decide who should be at the baby shower

This might require some detective work, or it could be a super simple exercise assuming the shower isn't a surprise. Traditionally, baby showers are intimate events, with the average number of attendees being about 20 and definitely fewer than 50.

Who is the guest of honor at a baby shower? ›

The name of the guest of honor: the parent or parents-to-be, depending on if one or both will be in attendance. The name of the host: whoever is planning the shower and will be collecting RSVPs as well as their contact information.

Can mom host her own baby shower? ›

Can I throw my own baby shower? Yes! Hosting your own shower is totally appropriate in the new world of party etiquette.

Should the grandmother throw a baby shower? ›

Who hosts a baby shower? There are several ways hosting a baby shower can happen: you can specifically ask a close friend, family member (yes, we think the grandmother-to-be can host if she wants to) or a group to host, someone can throw a surprise shower for you or you can host it yourself.

Do you put who is hosting baby shower on invite? ›

What Information Goes on the Baby Shower Invitation? Before sending out baby shower invitations, double-check to make sure you have all the necessary information listed on the invite. The following items will help guests save the baby shower date, dress accordingly, and RSVP on time: Name of Mom-To-Be and host(s)

How far along do you have to be to host a baby shower? ›

Usually, showers are held later in pregnancy, often around four to six weeks before the due date, but always check with the expectant family first. It's best to send invitations about four to six weeks before the shower so guests can save the date, and so out-of-town guests can make travel plans.

Is it bad etiquette to throw your own baby shower? ›

Yes! Hosting your own shower is totally appropriate in the new world of party etiquette. If you feel funny about doing so, you can always plan the party but have the RSVP's go to your partner or parent, so that guests don't overtly see you're the one doing it.

Is it rude to not get a baby shower gift? ›

Is it rude to go to a baby shower without a gift? - Quora. If you don't have the money at the time it's not rude. You could always give her a card with a little note stating that you haven't forgotten her or the baby. But if you just go and purposely don't give a gift well that is kind of rude.

Are people supposed to throw you a baby shower? ›

Who Hosts the Baby Shower? Traditionally, close friends, cousins, aunts, sisters-in-law, and coworkers of the parents-to-be have been the appropriate hosts for baby shower parties.

Is it really necessary to have a baby shower? ›

Ultimately, baby showers aren't for everyone. Yes, you'll have to buy all the stuff, but hey, maybe you'll buy what you need. On the contrary, if you want a baby shower, go for it! Even though I'm not having a baby shower, I fully support others having a baby shower.

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