Insurance is the latest weapon financial abusers use against their partners. Here’s how we fix it (2024)

They knew we had separated. Why did they let him cancel the policy and refund him the money without giving me a call to let me know the house and contents were no longer insured, or not do it before speaking to me first?

These are the words of Maddy (not her real name). Her experience of domestic and family violence was compounded by the acts of the insurance company she thought would give her financial protection.

Maddy’s former partner cancelled their home and contents insurance with a simple phone call. He received a refund of the premiums she had paid just a few months earlier. She didn’t know – not until well after he threatened to burn down the house with Maddy and the children in it.

If he had followed through with his threat I would have been punished too and made to pay the mortgage for a house that we couldn’t live in and not be able to rebuild because insurance wouldn’t cover it.

Maddy is one of the women who described how insurance is being misused as a weapon of financial abuse, for my second Designed to Disrupt report. Their personal accounts highlight the need for systemic change.

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Insurance as a weapon

General insurance is designed to provide financial protection from unexpected events. It’s supposed to be an affordable way to repair or replace an asset that is lost, stolen, damaged or destroyed.

But too often, victim-survivors of domestic and family violence find they don’t have the coverage they thought. They may be left without a car, or a home, and with no or limited means to pay to restore their financial safety and economic security.

There is limited data about the extent of the problem. But through desktop research and consultation with those with who’ve experienced it, and with consumer advocates and industry, we found the biggest issue is with joint policies.

Financial abusers exploit general insurance policies and procedures to deny access to information, cancel policies, interfere with the claims process, and to steal, limit or withhold payouts to the victim-survivor.

They aim to exert control by leaving their partner with no money, damaged or irreparable property and assets, and the accompanying emotional toll.

Differing policies and procedures

While some insurers have specialist teams to deal with these sorts of cases, there is a lack of standardised practices across the industry.

Results of our survey reveal wild variations in data between companies, with the number of domestic violence and financial abuse cases reported ranging from 11 to more than 2,000 in the 2021–22 financial year.

This means some victim-survivors will receive support that is empathetic and understands the affects of trauma, with flexibility for individual solutions. Others continue to struggle with dismissive or judgemental staff, risks to their safety, or compounding financial hardship.

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We asked whether any insurance company used modelling to estimate the risk or extent of property damage related to domestic and family violence. None did.

Yet it has been estimated that “consumption costs” (such as replacing damaged property, defaulting on bad debts, and the cost of moving) of partner violence against women and their children in 2021–22 could be $3.5 billion, including $202 million in damaged and destroyed property. Most of these costs are borne by victim-survivors and family and friends.

What needs to happen?

To address these issues with joint policies, three changes are needed:

  • close the loopholes that enable perpetrators to cancel insurance policies without the knowledge or consent of victim-survivors

  • introduce a “conduct of others” clause as a standard part of every insurance contract, enabling victim-survivors to make a claim when perpetrators deliberately damage property

  • modernise the law so insurance products can be redesigned with features that protect against financial abuse.

As a starting point, every general insurer should denounce financial abuse in their terms and conditions – following the lead of the Australian banking industry. So far, 14 banks have adopted this recommendation and are refusing to tolerate misuse of their products as a tactic of coercive control.

These changes would build on the significant progress the general insurance industry has made to support victim-survivors and drive greater consistency. The General Insurance Code of Practice sets a benchmark for self-regulation, and detailed guidance outlines better customer service practices for those experiencing domestic and family violence. All insurers are required to have a domestic and family violence policy, and some insurers have set up specialist teams and provided extra training.

The law also needs to be modernised because it’s stifling changes that would give victim-survivors better protection.

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The Insurance Contracts Act was written in 1984, just ten years after the first modern women’s refuge was established in Australia and well before domestic and family violence became an urgent national conversation.

Despite calls in 2004 and 2021 for the law to address cases in which a victim-survivor was denied a claim because of a wilful act or other breach by the perpetrator, legislation remains unchanged. Yet this type of behaviour is one of the most common ways insurance is used in family violence.

Two insurers, AAMI and Suncorp, have introduced a “conduct of others” clause to provide flexibility to pay a claim in these cases, even where there is no legal requirement to do so.

While these are positive moves, it’s slow progress. It’s time Australian insurers and regulators addressed this gap.

Insurance is the latest weapon financial abusers use against their partners. Here’s how we fix it (2024)

FAQs

How do you recover from financial manipulation? ›

  1. Details to consider if you plan to leave. The first step in exiting a financially abusive relationship is to develop a plan. ...
  2. Open a bank account and start saving. ...
  3. Make a budget. ...
  4. Make a plan to tackle credit card debt. ...
  5. Local food banks. ...
  6. Government assistance. ...
  7. Domestic abuse coalitions.
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How to help someone dealing with financial abuse? ›

Here are some possible ways you could help or support them:
  1. Hold money for them or help them save for themselves.
  2. Offer rides or support with work issues.
  3. Help them document the abuse.
  4. Allow them to use your address for personal banking and mail.

What is financial gaslighting? ›

“I do this stuff all day!” and “But this is my thing,” or “C'mon, you know you're not great with numbers,” are all financial gaslighting misdemeanors that can become threads of mistrust undermining an otherwise effective partnership. A tool often used to perpetrate financial gaslighting is the personal spreadsheet.

What is financial abuse by a narcissistic husband? ›

Controlling finances

One example of narcissistic financial abuse is when someone controls all aspects of your finances. By managing your bank accounts, credit cards, and investments, a narcissist can control your options, decisions, and overall autonomy.

What is narcissistic financial abuse? ›

Narcissist financial abuse is often covert and subtle, making it difficult for victims to recognize it until they are entirely trapped. Narcissistic financial abuse can manifest in various ways, from controlling bank accounts and spending habits to using money to manipulate or punish their partner.

Can you get PTSD from financial abuse? ›

Financial trauma can cause negative thoughts, flashbacks and anxiety — symptoms that mirror post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD.

What are four signs of financial abuse? ›

cashes in your pension or other cheques without your permission. adds their name to your account. pressures you to change your will in a way you're not comfortable with. has offered to buy shopping or pay bills with your money, but takes it, and doesn't use the money how you agreed.

How do you recover from a bad financial situation? ›

The steps to financial setback recovery
  1. Know you're not alone. Things like this will happen to everyone at least once in their life—they have happened to your friends and neighbors and family. ...
  2. Understand your options. ...
  3. Channel your energy into a budget. ...
  4. Think ahead. ...
  5. Ask for help. ...
  6. Move at the speed you need to.
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What are the psychological effects of financial abuse? ›

Financial abuse can also cause emotional issues. Victims may have trouble trusting loved ones and isolate themselves. They might also spend excessive time worrying about money and potential theft. Some people feel extreme anxiety or guilt when using money, especially when buying anything for themselves.

What to do when you're in financial ruin? ›

6 Steps To Recover From Financial Disaster
  1. 6 Well-Proven Steps That Guarantee Financial Recovery.
  2. Step 1 – Accept Your Situation. ...
  3. Step 2 – Take Inventory. ...
  4. Step 3 – Define Your Goal. ...
  5. Step 4 – Develop Your Plan. ...
  6. Step 5 – Take Action. ...
  7. Step 6 – Correct And Adjust.

How do you overcome financial shame? ›

Seek support

Another important aspect of overcoming money shame is seeking support from friends, family or a financial advisor. Talking openly about your financial challenges can be difficult, but it can also be incredibly liberating.

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