One day I woke up and decided to stop living paycheck to paycheck. I remember the day clearly. We had more month than money, our checking account was in the red and we had about $136 in our savings account. That's a bad day.
It is days like that you feel you won't overcome, that you will always be in debt, that you will always feel the noose of credit cards and bad decisions and self-doubt.
But you won't. I am speaking directly to you, sister. YOU WON'T. You can break the cycle, you can get off the crazy train, you can own your life, get out of debt and stop living pay check to pay check.
Okay, so how does one break the crazy cycle? These are the things that worked for our family while we were working to become debt free.
Make a list of your debts and look at where your money is going. I know that you have heard this a million times, but it helps.
I admit, it might be hard to look at that number in black and white, but simply writing down your debts and looking at who you owe what will bring a little bit of sanity to the situation.
It was like looking at turn by turn directions on a really long trip. I knew if we could just get down one road and eliminate that debt we could then move to the next road.
Look at where you're spending your money over a period of time. You can do this one of two ways, but either looking at your bank account or by carrying a notebook around with you and writing it down. I recommend the second one because you can really see your wasteful spending.
You might think your budget is tight, but believe me there is usually something that can be cut.
Of course we did the usual like cut cable, dropped some subscription services, quit going to movies or even paying for rentalsbut we took it even further than that.
We quit using paper towels, we were less wasteful of food and utilities and we limited our driving to save on gas.
I started meal planning and learned to stretch leftovers and other ingredients.
The four walls are a concept Dave Ramseytalks about. They are food, electric/water shelter (rent/mortgage), transportation (because you HAVE TO GO TO WORK).
If you can get a handle on these things, get current on your rent and your car you will feel better. You won't feel as panicked, you will feel calm. Trust me. Trust me on this one. Do not, ever, under any circ*mstances, pay your Visa bill before you pay your rent or mortgage.
This might not work for those of you with special dietary needs or allergies. But you can stretch rice and beans further than you think. Get your sales flyer, head over to Passionate Penny Pincherand learn to use some coupons.
No, coupons won't be the end all be all in your budget, but if you can learn to control your grocery budget you can learn to control other parts of your financial life.
It was awkward. But saying no to social situations that cost us money saved us money. It isn't easy. It is awkward. But I found if you're honest with people they understand.
Since we are now out of debt I loosened the reins on this slightly (but I will be tightening them up as we work to pay off our house early) but we just did without things we didn't truly need.
We just recently bought a new dryer after years of using the same old dinosaur that was chugging along. It got our clothes mostly dry and I used a clothes line for a lot of things.
Our baby's crib, his clothes, my clothes, our bed, our dining table, even the terrible sounding but very efficient vacuum cleaner are all handed down. I understand that not everyone has hand me downs. But web sites like Freecycle and Craigslisthave tons of free things from clothes to furniture.
When our oldest was born I asked the hospital if they offered a discount for paying the bill all at once.
More recently Jason got the cellphone and internet company to lower our bills just by asking.
We listed things on Craigslist, eBay etc. It is amazing what people will buy. We sold a broken laptop for $150!
I started a small business working from home.This is actually something we started doing after we had gained control of our budget, but we did it as an effort to get the debt paying ball rolling.
It will be hard. You won't like it. You will want to fall back into the old pattern of spending. But don't. Fight that urge. That's the only way to move forward and change your behavior.
