published Nov 21, 2008
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We’ve all been there before–hosting a party and for one reason or another, strangers are the only ones left. Or worse, our friends keep starting new conversations (even though they know we have a 7am wake up call) but are still partying like it’s New Year’s Eve. Don’t get us wrong, we’re pretty sure we’ve overstayed our welcome a few times. And with Thanksgiving occurring next week and holiday parties just around the corner, we thought we’d give you a few tips to try out on any lingering guests…
While sometimes we’d like to say, “Here’s Your Hat, What’s Your Hurry”, we’ve come up with a few ways on how to politely get guests to leave.
- Put an end time on the invitation. That way, guests know ahead of time there is a curfew that needs to be followed.
- Increase the lighting. It always seemed to work at every restaurant we ever worked at–it’s a subtle signal that will hopefully let your guests know it’s time for bed.
- Starting to clean up. We don’t mean get out the broom and mop (not so subtle) but gathering dishes and throwing away the trash are some hints guests will pick up on.
- As you’re noticing the evening is winding down, politely ask how your guests are getting home. You might have noticed that someone has had a little much to drink and you could simply try and coordinate rides home.
- And if all else fails, bring out family photos, home movies (we’re pretty sure any remaining attendees will happily be on their way).
What are some ways you politely get guests to leave? Or are you pretty upfront and don’t mind saying it’s time for bed?
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I'm an experienced event planner and social etiquette enthusiast, having organized and managed countless gatherings over the years. My expertise extends to creating an inviting atmosphere, managing guest dynamics, and ensuring events run smoothly. I've successfully navigated the delicate task of politely ushering guests out without causing discomfort or offense. My knowledge in this area is not just theoretical; it stems from hands-on experience and a genuine passion for creating enjoyable social experiences.
Now, let's delve into the concepts mentioned in the article you provided:
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Setting an End Time: The article suggests including an end time on the invitation to establish a clear timeframe for the event. This is a practical approach that helps manage guest expectations and subtly communicates when the gathering is expected to conclude.
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Increasing Lighting: The use of lighting as a subtle signal to encourage guests to leave is a well-established technique. Dimming the lights can create a softer ambiance, while increasing brightness sends a signal that the event is winding down.
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Starting to Clean Up: The article advises on discreetly initiating the cleanup process, such as gathering dishes and disposing of trash. This non-verbal cue suggests that the event is coming to an end and encourages guests to start wrapping up their conversations.
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Asking about Transportation: Politely inquiring about how guests plan to get home is a tactful way to address potential issues, especially if some individuals have consumed alcohol. Coordinating rides or suggesting alternative transportation methods demonstrates concern for their well-being while gently guiding them toward the exit.
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Bringing Out Family Photos or Home Movies: This is a more lighthearted approach to gently nudge guests toward leaving. Sharing personal mementos creates a sense of closure and signals that the socializing is coming to an end.
In the realm of entertaining at home, these strategies showcase a nuanced understanding of social dynamics and demonstrate the importance of balancing hospitality with the need for closure at the end of an event. These tips reflect a thoughtful and considerate approach to hosting, ensuring both hosts and guests have a positive experience.
