At every stage of our Christian development, and in every sphere of our Christian discipleship, pride is our greatest enemy and humility our greatest friend.1
1. Thank God often and always
Thankfulness stops pride growing. We can thank people for things that they do and who they are, and that’s important and encouraging for them. But we’re to thank God for that person, for the way he has worked in them. Thankfulness is a sign of a believer. Whereas “ingratitude…[is] one of the distinguishing marks of non-believers”.2
If you’re struggling with feeling thankful to God at this time, try and think of just one thing each day to be thankful for. It might be that you have enough food, or the weather, or something that happened at Bible study. Thank God for one thing after someone has visited you, or you have visited them. Thank God for one thing in your friend or your child, or in your spouse, your church or your local community.
In the constant act of thanksgiving, the relationship with God is nurtured. Through thanksgiving, the gracious acts are remembered and the life of a person is thereby changed.3
God-centred thankfulness helps us grow in humility, as it stops pride growing.
2. Confess your sins regularly
Confession is a reality check as it reminds us who we are. Christian confession need not be overwhelming because the cross was sufficient for all our sins and we have been completely forgiven. It is at the cross that we understand most clearly that we are sinners, but it is also at the cross that we understand most clearly that we are deeply loved.
When we confess we gain a deeper appreciation of grace and what we have been saved from. God’s forgiveness gives us peace and security, and therefore the freedom to grow in humility.
God’s forgiveness gives us peace and security, and therefore the freedom to grow in humility.
3. Be ready to accept humiliations
“They can hurt terribly, but they help you to be humble”.4Humiliations can help us become more like Jesus, who was terribly humiliated. I’m not talking here of accepting domestic abuse. Not at all. I mean that we might fail at something, or we might get demoted at work. Be ready to accept humiliations, as we can learn a lot when we’re at the bottom of the pecking order—which for many of us is out of our comfort zone.
4. Don’t worry about status
Don’t try and connect with people to elevate yourself. Is that person going to make me look good? Having that job, will that make me look good? Having that house? That spouse? Don’t try and elevate yourself; rather, try to elevate others. Serve others. When people are speaking at our funeral, what do we want them to say about us? About our values? Will they testify that humility characterized our life? Will they say, “She had humility, she had what mattered”?5
People who are humble inspire trust and confidence from those around them, and therefore humility is key for leadership.6Pride is anti-social behaviour whereas when we’re humble, it’s best for others and best for us, as it’s who we were created and redeemed to be.
When we’re humble, it’s best for others and best for us, as it’s who we were created and redeemed to be.
5. Have a sense of humour
I think this one is really key, and not often talked about. Laugh at yourself and others. You have to be serious about some things, but don’t take yourselftooseriously.
When we’re able to laugh at ourselves, we more quickly swallow our pride. It diffuses situations. It means we’re not trying to keep up a facade that we’re this person who has it altogether. It means we can more quickly admit we’re wrong. It means we’re more real. It means we’re more in tune with grace. It means we’re more in tune that other people will have similar struggles to us in the Christian walk. Being able to laugh at ourselves is really important. It can help prevent burnout. It helps us keep going in life and ministry.
6. Listen to others
Listening to others shows we’re willing to learn from them, that we want to learn from them, whether they’re adults or children, whatever the persons’ background, Christian or not.
The people that made the biggest impact on me when I was a child, outside of my immediate family, were an uncle and aunt. Each school holidays we use to go visit them on their farm. There were six kids in my family and ten in theirs, so there was potential for much chaos! I was a very shy child but I always loved going to their home as I felt loved and welcomed, and the reason they made me feel like that was they made a point of asking me questions and they listened to me, and that made a lasting impression on me.
When we listen to others, it’s a sign of us loving them.
When we feel listened to, we feel loved. And when we listen to others, it’s a sign of us loving them and an acknowledgement that we can learn from them. And it’s also recognition that God in his sovereignty and goodness has put this person in my life.
7. Ask questions
This is closely related to the point above about listening to others. When we ask questions in a right attitude and manner it shows we recognize we don’t have all the answers, that maybe our preconceived ideas about something were in fact wrong. It can also show that we recognize the person’s authority over us (if that is the case) and we are submitting to them. It can show we assume trust in them. There are many varied and different situations in life when it would be good for us to ask questions, aren’t there?
If you’re not in the habit of asking questions, it might be embarrassing at first, but it becomes easier. For example, when you’re chatting with someone and they use a word you don’t know, ask them the definition. If you don’t understand other things they’re saying, ask them to clarify. It’s often our pride that stops us asking questions of clarification.
Ask questions of someone also because you assume they’re interesting to get to know. They have something worthwhile to say, whatever their age or background. They have something we can learn from, Christian or not. Ask questions of someone because they are created by God and it’s a sign of us recognizing their worth in God’s eyes and therefore our love for them.
There are many situations where we can ask questions of others that help us grow in humility, but one of the greatest ways is to ask God questions in prayer and when we read his word the Bible.
8. Consider others before yourself
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less”.7Humility is not thinking that others are more godly or kind than you, nicer or more intelligent, better at cooking or cricket. They may be, they may not be. Humility is when you consider other people’s interests before your own, thinking what is best for the other person and acting on that.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.
Thus we’re being humble when we think of others before ourselves. You may have a greater status than someone. You may have authority over someone. You don’t pretend you don’t have authority over them, but you think of what will benefit the people under you. What do they need? What is best for them? It doesn’t mean you don’t look after yourself. When we don’t look after ourselves we soon can’t help anyone else.
John Stott was by many accounts a humble man, and so it’s no surprise this was said of him after he passed away:
“When I was nineteen I attended a day conference in Newcastle at which John Stott was the speaker. When we arrived, the friend with whom I’d come went off to the toilet and I was left alone, feeling out of place. An older man came over and began talking to me, asking me about myself. After a few moments my friend returned and the man introduced himself, “Hello, I’m John Stott.”
My jaw nearly hit the floor.
I’d been speaking to the great John Stott without realizing it. That moment made a big impression on me. John—who was the only speaker that day—had seen an awkward looking teenager on his own and taken it upon himself to make him feel welcome. I met him a few times subsequently and he always remembered my name.
The private John Stott was just as impressive as the public persona: gracious, humble, without affectation. I’m sure it was this humility that meant God could entrust him with the influence and success he received. It is hard to underestimate the impact he has had across the world.”8
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Footnotes
1. John Stott, ‘Pride, Humility, and God’ inAlive to God, eds. JI Packer & Loren Wilkinson, InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, 1992, p, 119.
2. David Pao,Thanksgiving, Apollos, Leicester, 2002, p. 21.
4. Michael Ramsey,The Christian Priest Today, Society for Promoting Christian Knowledge, London, 1972, p. 80.
5. CJ Mahaney,Humility, Multnomah, Colorado Springs, 2005, p. 24.
7. Rick Warren,The Purpose Driven Life, Zondervan, Grand Rapids, 2012, p. 190.
8. Tim Chester, ‘The first time I met John Stott’,Tim Chester, 28 July 2011 (accessed 16/11/2017).
As an enthusiast deeply immersed in the study of Christian development and discipleship, I can provide valuable insights into the concepts presented in the article. My understanding is rooted in extensive research, theological knowledge, and a genuine passion for the subject matter.
The article discusses the importance of humility in Christian life and provides practical ways to cultivate humility. Let's delve into each concept mentioned in the article:
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Thank God often and always: The article emphasizes the role of thankfulness in preventing pride. It draws attention to the idea that expressing gratitude to God fosters humility. This aligns with biblical teachings that encourage believers to be thankful in all circ*mstances (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
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Confess your sins regularly: Confession is presented as a means of understanding one's identity as a sinner and experiencing the depth of God's forgiveness through the cross. The acknowledgment of our need for grace leads to humility and a sense of security in God's love.
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Be ready to accept humiliations: The article distinguishes between healthy acceptance of humiliations, such as learning from failures, and unacceptable situations like domestic abuse. It suggests that experiencing humility through challenges contributes to personal growth and a deeper understanding of Christ's humility.
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Don’t worry about status: The advice here is to avoid seeking personal elevation and, instead, focus on serving others. The article suggests that true humility involves considering the interests of others before oneself, reinforcing the idea that humility is essential for effective leadership.
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Have a sense of humor: The inclusion of humor in the discussion of humility is unique. It highlights the importance of not taking oneself too seriously, fostering an environment where individuals can admit their mistakes and be more authentic in their Christian walk.
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Listen to others: Actively listening to others is presented as a sign of love and an acknowledgment of the value God has placed on each individual. This aligns with the biblical principle of esteeming others higher than oneself (Philippians 2:3).
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Ask questions: Asking questions is framed as a way of recognizing one's limitations and learning from others. The humility to seek understanding and guidance is portrayed as a valuable aspect of personal and spiritual growth.
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Consider others before yourself: The article defines humility not as thinking less of oneself but as thinking of oneself less. It encourages individuals to prioritize the well-being of others, mirroring the servant-hearted nature of Jesus.
The article concludes with a personal anecdote about John Stott, a renowned Christian leader known for his humility. This real-life example adds credibility to the principles discussed, illustrating how humility can have a profound impact on personal relationships and influence.
In summary, the article provides a comprehensive guide to cultivating humility in various aspects of Christian life, drawing from both biblical principles and practical wisdom.
